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Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Be Your Own Happy

Be Your Own Happy

It really DOES involve taking care of yourself, you know. 

Instead of pushing other people to find out why you might be feeling the way you are now, turn inward.

You may fall apart, but maybe becoming your own happy requires that you fall apart in order to pull yourself back together differently.

Practice self-compassion, too.

To be your own happy, you may have to open your eyes to your patterns of being, of interacting and doing. This asks you to move beyond your comfort zone.


Be curious.

Be courageous.

Be ok with being scared. 
(In fact, you might even try to do one thing scary every day! This one has bonus material for our brains, which like novelty and actually begin to function better when we stretch ourselves.)

With each thought, action and interaction you do differently, you'll learn better who you really are.

AND, you might be surprised to find you're proud of yourself for trying something different.

In the words of the poet Rumi:
"Be crumbled
So wild flowers will come
up where you are.
You have been stony for
too many years.
Try something different.

What happens when you surrender to NOW so you can 

Monday, March 23, 2015

Call for a Consult

Call for a Consult

Tell your story to someone who is a trustworthy and valued listener -- someone who can simply listen without offering suggestions or solutions until you're ready for them.

As you talk, notice the areas of “stuckness” you’re feeling. 
This is usually a variation of the same "story" you've told before, 
the same pattern of interacting you've experienced in the past. 

Ask your listener to help you "see" the pattern or story. 

Maybe it's time to tell a different story!

What has helped you get “un-stuck” before?
This is when your listener can offer ideas or possible solutions.
(If they have only one idea, that's advice!)
Work together to figure out other solutions.

What could you do now?

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Don't Think. Just DO.

Don't Think. Just DO.

If you find that you tend to overthink situations, first create a basic plan. 

Once you've created a plan, trust that you'll work out the details and just start taking the next step in your plan. Don't rework the plan or overthink what might or might not happen.

Take action and just do what's next.

And then take the next step...

Notice what happens when you're taking action 
instead of spending time, energy and effort 
on thinking and reworking your plan.

Monday, March 16, 2015



Remember this: what is happening now is not ALL of who I am.

Even in the middle of this, I AM also...
(Name 3 positive qualities to describe yourself. 
These are ALSO parts of who you really are!)


_______________, and


Affirm this within yourself:
As I am, I AM the embodiment of love/compassion/wisdom.

In this moment,
I only have to be who I really am.

A Quick 33 Seconds…

A Quick 33 Seconds…

See The Last Adventure of Life,
or Creative Visualization by Shakti Gawain

Imagine how you will be/feel when this situation/concern has been resolved.
Focus on the feelings you intend to have. 

Imagine every detail of what the resolution looks and feels like.
Mentally surround the situation in pink light
and put it in a bubble.

Focus on this imagery for 33 seconds.
(This can be a challenge, but if you can stick with it, 
you’ll increase the odds for a successful outcome!)

RELEASE the bubble
and the situation/concern
then move ahead in your day.

Be on the lookout for signs that what you imagined might actually happen.

Thursday, March 12, 2015

Well, THAT Didn't Work!

Well, THAT Didn't Work!

One of the differences between successful people and those who give in to failure is in how the experience is labeled. What to YOU say about what is happening to you? 

Do you say, "I failed at..."?

Or could you say, "Well, THAT didn't work!" And then try something else...

What else COULD you try?

Monday, March 2, 2015

"What If Up?"

"What if UP?"

From What If It All Goes Right? by Mindy Audlin 
(cited in Joe Vitale's The Miracles Manual: The Secret Coaching Sessions)

What if, instead of thinking about and wondering what would happen if something doesn't work out for you, you ask yourself, "What if up?"

"What if up?" invites you to begin to imagine what might happen 
if things go in your favor. 

"What if this is the best thing that could happen for me?"

"What if this changes my life from here forward?"

"What if this is a pivotal point in my life?"

"What if this is the greatest idea ever?"

"What if this is the best investment I could make in my life?"

Notice how your energy shifts as you engage you imagination in a way that serves you instead of limits you. 

What if your next step is really easy?!